Is this really yours to carry?
We all have layers.
Layers and layers of past conditioning, interpretations, and perceptions.
Lately, I’ve discovered one of my own, and I’m sharing it in the hopes that it helps you look within yourself. Continuing your self work. Uncovering/discovering what is in your backpack, what you are carrying, and intentionally emptying what you don't want or need.
I’m a first-generation American. And what has recently became clear to me is that my ego has been holding onto a belief that no longer serves me:
Struggle is a badge of honor.
I come from a long line of parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents who struggled in what we often call “the old country.” There is no doubt, the struggle was extreme, and very real. That struggle is woven into our family narrative. It’s part of a story that’s been told and retold. A part of our identity.
Calling it a story is, in itself, revealing.
Stories come from somewhere else.
From another time.
From someone else.
I like to set themes for the year, and this year, my intention is simple: fun and easy. With awareness and intention, I've had to release that story from my sense-of-self.
Which is why I think it surfaced, actually. It's a contradiction to what is taking up space in my backpack. 🤷🏻♀️
My legacy is ancestral grit and perseverance. And I'm grateful for those qualities--truly. We are strong and have endured. There is pride in that. However, I’m noticing a quiet subtle belief underneath it all—that I would be more respected if my success came with struggle. 🤦🏻♀️
And if I’m honest, there’s a follow-up question:
What does it say about me if things come easily?
That question signals that there might be more to unpack.
So I’ll offer you this gentle invitation.
When you notice resistance showing up, pause for a moment.
Ask yourself where that feeling is coming from.
Is it truly yours? Or is it someone else’s story that you’ve been carrying for a very long time?
Sometimes growth isn’t about pushing harder.
Sometimes it’s about letting go.